Divorce: How to make it amicable
When two married people decide that they no longer wish to live together, divorce often follows. However, when children are involved, it’s important to ensure the divorce is as amicable as possible to maintain the emotional wellbeing of everyone involved.
What is an amicable divorce?
An amicable divorce is settled outside of the courtroom in the hopes that after the proceedings the couple in question will maintain a courteous relationship. Despite settling out of court, it’s still important to invest in the services of a lawyer in order to draw up formal documents detailing things like housing arrangements, financial support, living arrangements of the children, etc.
The benefits of an amicable divorce
Aside it being a more affordable option, such a divorce will often result in a better relationship for all. Avoiding court may also be healthier for the wellbeing of the entire family as issues over the living arrangements of children can create stress for everyone involved.
You should also bear in mind that if either parent emanates hurtful behaviour towards one and other then this could affect the long-term development and emotional wellbeing of the children. A healthy, friendly relationship between parents is of vital importance.
Money and assets
Apart from the emotional turmoil that comes with the prospect of divorce, there’s also the dividing of finances to consider. In some cases, the family home may have to be put on the market in order to divide the assets equally.
Discussions over property and financial requirements can often create the most discord. These issues can be talked through rationally with the aid of a therapist or mediator.
Custody of children
One of the most important discussions after divorce is deciding who gets the custody of the children. If international residence is involved, this discussion can become even more complex.
It’s always important to talk to your children at this point and consider where they are in their lives. An amicable divorce allows for open discussion instead of arguments to discuss what is best for them. Pulling them out of school in the height of exam season isn’t going to help them excel in their studies and realising that their needs come first is of utmost importance.
If the divorce proceedings are kept amicable, custody is often agreed on mutual terms, which means the best interests of the children are given priority.